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How To Increase Your Self-Esteem

What you accomplish every day is to your self-esteem, what water is to your life.
– Sara Maya Smith

Everyone has goals. However, committing to the right goals and being able to achieve them is what shows who you really are. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to anything we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what? We are not able to reach all of them and we feel frustrated, and this has a negative impact on our self-esteem.

As a result, the value that we give to ourselves in a similar situation is quite low, and we feel worthless, because we feel that we’re not able to keep a promise to ourselves.  Instead, if we choose to select only a few goals, and we focus on and commit to them, we make possible their achievement, and we feel much better.

Proving our value to ourselves is essential for our self-confidence and the way we feel.  And the best way to do it, is by being consistent and taking action every day, taking all those small steps that will take us to our long-term and bigger accomplishments. The moment we start to see the first results, our self-esteem slowly starts to increase, and reaches a higher level every time we achieve a long-term goal.

So in a nutshell, the steps to increase your self-esteem are:

  • Identify your goals.
  • Focus on a selected number of goals.
  • Identify which are the steps to reach those goals.
  • Take action every day and move toward your goals.
  • Be consistent.
  • Don’t give up.

If you follow these steps, you will automatically feel satisfied, and this will have a great impact on your self-confidence.

It’s not easy to attain the desired results, but with the right motivation and self-discipline everything is possible. And it’s definitely something that anyone can learn.

Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

3 Simple Truths About Success

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.
– Benjamin Franklin

Success doesn’t come overnight

Have you ever thought about the high level of success you could attain, if only you spent one hour a day improving your skills and abilities?
Have you ever thought where you could be now, if only you started to work for your goals one year ago? And what if you started five years ago?
You see, it’s all about small steps, consistency and motivation. When we know what we want, we can reach any goal, if we take action.
But we have to work for it: success doesn’t come overnight, and unleashing our potential requires hard work and determination.

Discipline is the only predictor of success, no shortcuts!

If you really want to shift your life, you have to behave as if you were your own employer.
You need to be a demanding employer with yourself, and you need to be a highly responsible employee at the same time, working as if you you had a demanding boss always controlling you.
You need discipline, because real accomplishments come with patience, perseverance and hard work.

Organization is the key

Step-by-step improvement is a simple concept, but if you don’t get organized, you can make it difficult, and you might feel overwhelmed, nervous, and frustrated, because you don’t even know where to start.
The simplest way to structure your life is writing down all the things you have to do, and organize your life daily. You can use a to-do list, your agenda, or a blackboard, but the most important thing is to write down everything, in order to avoid mental stress.

Practice the philosophy of continuous improvement. Get a little bit better every single day.
– Brian Tracy

Featured Image: Puzzle, Play, Piecing Together

 

 

The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

The world is giving you answers each day, learn to listen.
— Unknown

Anytime we are working on something, we can either listen to positive and constructive feedback and improve, or let negative people bring us down.

The mental process that can put us both on the right or the wrong path – that is, success or failure – is represented in a nice infographic below.

Enjoy it and don’t hesitate to share it with your friends and colleagues!

The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

You can find this infographic on Lifehack.org too!

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The Art of Getting What You Want: The 3P Factor

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
– Colin Powell

Have you ever heard of the Giant Bamboo story?
If you listen to the story, I’m sure you will immediately understand how important it can be in your life, and how much you can learn from it.
Watch this video, and then feel free to share your experience in the comments.

 

The underlying message of this video is:

“Even though you can’t see concrete results right now, don’t stop, don’t give up, just keep moving forward, you will receive a reward at the end of your journey. But please, don’t stop!”

So, what is this video about?

The man in the video was working hard, but he somehow started to feel discouraged, as he could not see immediate results. That is, he didn’t feel as he was developing himself and he hadn’t seen any meaningful achievement for a while.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t producing any outcome. He was working on his personal growth, and his better version of himself was growing a little bit every day “under the ground”, but he didn’t know that. He just couldn’t see it.

His mentor explained to him that even though he couldn’t see results or concrete achievements yet, he was learning and developing himself. This process was necessary for his potential to grow.

With this video, we saw that “daily watering” – that is, small daily actions and good habits – is the most important thing.
All those small steps that contribute to our personal growth, or to the development of a project, make a small difference every day. And they are the key to big accomplishments.
Over time, they become realized in a sudden and surprising growth. If we know this, we are already on the right path to get where we want.

When we work hard, we’ll necessarily experience a period of time in which we can’t see an outcome.
During that period it’s vital to remember that we are building something big, and we can’t stop.

The 3P Factor: the art of getting what you want

When we want to succeed in something, we absolutely need the appropriate knowledge and the right skills, but that’s not enough. That’s probably 50% of what we need: it’s also essential to have the right mindset and attitude.

This is actually what makes the difference, because in order to reach our goals we need those qualities that boost our personal growth. And I’m referring to those features that give us the strength to get exactly where we want: perseverance and patience. These two elements together are what we need to make things simpler, possible and attainable. When we learn to be patient and to never give up, we start overcoming our limits and our fears.

When we understand that sometimes delayed gratifications are better than immediate rewards, we start learning and practicing patience and perseverance in our life.
We start doing things we were scared of, and little by little we start to unleash our potential.

3P stands for…

The 3P Factor is the magic combination of:

  1. Patience,
  2. Perseverance and
  3. Potential

Patience is the ability to get rid of the need of seeing results immediately.
In other words is the ability to wait for delayed gratification and to give up on immediate pleasure or lower value gratification.

Perseverance is the ability to be resilient and to keep going without stopping, even when we lose hope.

Potential is the set of skills and abilities that could lead us to realize our dreams, but we need to “activate” it by taking action, being patient and persistent.

These three elements together are what helps us and supports us when we can’t see results and consequently feel discouraged, they are what takes us beyond our limits even when we don’t believe in ourselves anymore.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.

-Robert H. Schuller

If the key to getting what we want is being persistent – with patience – it’s important to know how to improve our perseverance.

And to do that we must remember that if we “water” our potential it with patience, perseverance, good habits and small daily actions, we can reach almost anything, and we can develop the art of getting what we want.

Sometimes great achievements arrive later than we expect, but they arrive, and they are great.
All we have to do is patiently persevere in maximizing our potential.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

– Confucius

Feel free to leave a comment and share your experience! 🙂

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Wayne Walter Dyer’s Best Lessons

As many of you already know, the world has lost one of the most inspiring and incredible men of this century, one of the best motivational speakers and best-selling authors of all times, Wayne Walter Dyer.
He passed away on August 29th, at the age of 75, and according to his family, he died in his sleep.

Since he brought a lot to my life and inspired me a lot during the last years, I deeply desire to share with you his most beautiful and important quotes about life, love, happiness and success.

  1. “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
  2. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
  3. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
  4. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.”
  5. “Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I’m going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.”
  6. “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with
    another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change
    you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you
    are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or
    frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about
    something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it
    is about you that is making you unhappy. ”
  7. “Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.”
  8. “When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace”
  9. “I am realistic – I expect miracles.”
  10. “You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”
  11. “In any relationship in which two people become one, the end result is two half people.”
  12. “Loving people live in a loving world, hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
  13. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
  14. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
  15. “I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.”
  16. “I am thankful to all those who said no. It’s because of them, I did it myself.”
  17. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
  18. “You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”
  19. “Present-moment living, getting in touch with your now, is at the heart of effective living. When you think about it, there really is no other moment you can live. Now is all there is, and the future is just another present moment to live when it arrives.”
  20. “Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.”
  21. “Love is co-operation rather than competition.”
  22. “It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
  23. “When you have the choice between being right and being kind just choose kind.”
  24. “The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”
  25. “There is no stress in the world, only people thinking stressful thoughts.”
  26. “Upon awakening, let the words Thank You flow from your lips, for this will remind you to begin your day with gratitude and compassion.”
  27. “Once you believe in yourself
    and see your soul as divine and precious,
    you’ll automatically be converted
    to a being who can create miracles.”

Hope Dr.Dyer’s wisdom will always accompany and inspire you in your daily routine.
And I’m sure the world will never forget such a great man.

Featured Image: Patrick Nouhailler

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The Secret Of The Soldier You Should Know

If you lose one battle, don’t give up.
Get up again, you have a war to win.
S. M.

You may think: “Why are we talking about soldiers today? That’s too much for me, I’m not that strong, I’m not a hero. I’m just a normal person who lives a normal life in a normal city with a job, a family and a house, like everyone else. I’m not strong enough to become a soldier.”

I want you to understand that you can be a soldier if you want.
And I want to share with you what I call the secret of the soldier.
What I mean with the word soldier is a valorous, determined and firm individual, who doesn’t let anything or anyone stop him or her.

A soldier gets hurt all the time, but keeps fighting and doesn’t even think of abandoning. And this is his secret: the strong tenacity and determination, in spite of his wounds.
A soldier doesn’t let the future and the adversities scare him, and always has the courage and strength to face his battles.

But we all get hurt, and quite often, and we all should keep going and face our daily challenges, exactly like a soldier.
This is why, when things don’t go the way you expected, all you have to do is to act like a soldier, and bear the pain of your wounds, because you are alive and you have a war to win: you have to achieve what you always wanted in your life.

Remember that you can overcome anything, if you decide to.
So, be a soldier, never give up, and fight your war until the end.

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Success: 2 Simple Habits

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle
Napoleon Hill

We have talked about success in several articles, and we talked about good habits related to success in life.
The big question: which are the best habits one should have to succeed in something in particular?

1. Practice
The most important thing to do when you want to be better at your job, a sport or something you enjoy doing, is to practice.
It’s extremely simple, the more you do something, the better you become.

2. Learning new skills
This is, you have to improve yourself and your competencies every day, if what you want is success.
Imagine two people with the same job, same academic background and same age. The first one invests at least half an hour every day in learning new things, reading and improving his/her skills, while the second one is satisfied with his/her job and doesn’t feel the need to grow.

Now, try to imagine these two people after 10 years. I bet you can see a difference.
The first person has probably become an important manager or, who knows maybe the CEO of a company.
And he/she has probably a very high level of self-esteem, and a good quality of life.
Meanwhile, the second one has probably grown in his/her profession, but he/she gets a quarter, or less, the salary of the first person, being likely to experience a sense of frustration not having achieved a lot during the last 10 years.
As you can see, everything we do today affects what we will be in the future, especially in the long-term.

As Napoleon Hill said, remember that any effort you make to develop your skills, or to develop yourself as a person, must be continuous.

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3 Ways to Improve your Self-Discipline

I don’t stop when I’m tired. I only stop when I’m done.
Marilyn Monroe

Self-discipline is everything if we want to successfully complete something we began. But it’s not always so easy to respect a schedule.
It’s our ability to resist to bad conditions, and our mental toughness that make us strong. And this strength that we see in successful people can be learned and developed.

1 Write your to-do list while you are having breakfast
This is a good habit, and as soon as you will get used to it, you will find it pleasant and challenging. Plus, you will realize how something so simple can be so useful.
You don’t like to have breakfast in the morning? Well, I strongly recommend you to have breakfast, because it’s not just “important”, it’s vital, if you want to be productive!

2 Cross all the items off your list
This will make you feel good and satisfied, and when you won’t be able to cross an item, you will feel a bit “guilty”.
Sounds sneaky? No, it’s only an efficient way to train yourself and your self-discipline.

3 Visualize what you will be in the future thanks to what you are doing today
The most important point. It’s a bit difficult to work hard when you don’t have a purpose in your life.
In other words, you need something to desire so much that you will feel motivated and you will be productive.

When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.
Eric Thomas

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