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How To Increase Your Self-Esteem

What you accomplish every day is to your self-esteem, what water is to your life.
– Sara Maya Smith

Everyone has goals. However, committing to the right goals and being able to achieve them is what shows who you really are. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to anything we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what? We are not able to reach all of them and we feel frustrated, and this has a negative impact on our self-esteem.

As a result, the value that we give to ourselves in a similar situation is quite low, and we feel worthless, because we feel that we’re not able to keep a promise to ourselves.  Instead, if we choose to select only a few goals, and we focus on and commit to them, we make possible their achievement, and we feel much better.

Proving our value to ourselves is essential for our self-confidence and the way we feel.  And the best way to do it, is by being consistent and taking action every day, taking all those small steps that will take us to our long-term and bigger accomplishments. The moment we start to see the first results, our self-esteem slowly starts to increase, and reaches a higher level every time we achieve a long-term goal.

So in a nutshell, the steps to increase your self-esteem are:

  • Identify your goals.
  • Focus on a selected number of goals.
  • Identify which are the steps to reach those goals.
  • Take action every day and move toward your goals.
  • Be consistent.
  • Don’t give up.

If you follow these steps, you will automatically feel satisfied, and this will have a great impact on your self-confidence.

It’s not easy to attain the desired results, but with the right motivation and self-discipline everything is possible. And it’s definitely something that anyone can learn.

Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

3 Simple Truths About Success

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.
– Benjamin Franklin

Success doesn’t come overnight

Have you ever thought about the high level of success you could attain, if only you spent one hour a day improving your skills and abilities?
Have you ever thought where you could be now, if only you started to work for your goals one year ago? And what if you started five years ago?
You see, it’s all about small steps, consistency and motivation. When we know what we want, we can reach any goal, if we take action.
But we have to work for it: success doesn’t come overnight, and unleashing our potential requires hard work and determination.

Discipline is the only predictor of success, no shortcuts!

If you really want to shift your life, you have to behave as if you were your own employer.
You need to be a demanding employer with yourself, and you need to be a highly responsible employee at the same time, working as if you you had a demanding boss always controlling you.
You need discipline, because real accomplishments come with patience, perseverance and hard work.

Organization is the key

Step-by-step improvement is a simple concept, but if you don’t get organized, you can make it difficult, and you might feel overwhelmed, nervous, and frustrated, because you don’t even know where to start.
The simplest way to structure your life is writing down all the things you have to do, and organize your life daily. You can use a to-do list, your agenda, or a blackboard, but the most important thing is to write down everything, in order to avoid mental stress.

Practice the philosophy of continuous improvement. Get a little bit better every single day.
– Brian Tracy

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The Art of Getting What You Want: The 3P Factor

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
– Colin Powell

Have you ever heard of the Giant Bamboo story?
If you listen to the story, I’m sure you will immediately understand how important it can be in your life, and how much you can learn from it.
Watch this video, and then feel free to share your experience in the comments.

 

The underlying message of this video is:

“Even though you can’t see concrete results right now, don’t stop, don’t give up, just keep moving forward, you will receive a reward at the end of your journey. But please, don’t stop!”

So, what is this video about?

The man in the video was working hard, but he somehow started to feel discouraged, as he could not see immediate results. That is, he didn’t feel as he was developing himself and he hadn’t seen any meaningful achievement for a while.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t producing any outcome. He was working on his personal growth, and his better version of himself was growing a little bit every day “under the ground”, but he didn’t know that. He just couldn’t see it.

His mentor explained to him that even though he couldn’t see results or concrete achievements yet, he was learning and developing himself. This process was necessary for his potential to grow.

With this video, we saw that “daily watering” – that is, small daily actions and good habits – is the most important thing.
All those small steps that contribute to our personal growth, or to the development of a project, make a small difference every day. And they are the key to big accomplishments.
Over time, they become realized in a sudden and surprising growth. If we know this, we are already on the right path to get where we want.

When we work hard, we’ll necessarily experience a period of time in which we can’t see an outcome.
During that period it’s vital to remember that we are building something big, and we can’t stop.

The 3P Factor: the art of getting what you want

When we want to succeed in something, we absolutely need the appropriate knowledge and the right skills, but that’s not enough. That’s probably 50% of what we need: it’s also essential to have the right mindset and attitude.

This is actually what makes the difference, because in order to reach our goals we need those qualities that boost our personal growth. And I’m referring to those features that give us the strength to get exactly where we want: perseverance and patience. These two elements together are what we need to make things simpler, possible and attainable. When we learn to be patient and to never give up, we start overcoming our limits and our fears.

When we understand that sometimes delayed gratifications are better than immediate rewards, we start learning and practicing patience and perseverance in our life.
We start doing things we were scared of, and little by little we start to unleash our potential.

3P stands for…

The 3P Factor is the magic combination of:

  1. Patience,
  2. Perseverance and
  3. Potential

Patience is the ability to get rid of the need of seeing results immediately.
In other words is the ability to wait for delayed gratification and to give up on immediate pleasure or lower value gratification.

Perseverance is the ability to be resilient and to keep going without stopping, even when we lose hope.

Potential is the set of skills and abilities that could lead us to realize our dreams, but we need to “activate” it by taking action, being patient and persistent.

These three elements together are what helps us and supports us when we can’t see results and consequently feel discouraged, they are what takes us beyond our limits even when we don’t believe in ourselves anymore.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.

-Robert H. Schuller

If the key to getting what we want is being persistent – with patience – it’s important to know how to improve our perseverance.

And to do that we must remember that if we “water” our potential it with patience, perseverance, good habits and small daily actions, we can reach almost anything, and we can develop the art of getting what we want.

Sometimes great achievements arrive later than we expect, but they arrive, and they are great.
All we have to do is patiently persevere in maximizing our potential.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

– Confucius

Feel free to leave a comment and share your experience! 🙂

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If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It

If you can dream it, you can do it.
Walt Disney

Every time I read this Walt Disney’s quote, I get my small daily dose of motivation.

I think this quote gives you that nice and empowering feeling of being able to achieve whatever you want. But that goal that you want to achieve, has to be a dream and not just a whim. It’s essential to have a dream and strongly believe that you can bring it into reality.

The Importance of Having a Dream

With dream, I’m not referring to become a millionaire overnight, that would be quite unrealistic 🙂

I’m talking about that exciting idea in our head that makes us get up excited and motivated every morning, that makes us work hard to achieve something. Having a dream is powerful. A dream is that thing that we want so badly that we would do whatever it takes to achieve it. We wouldn’t find excuses to relax and give up on it.

If realistic and used wisely, a dream can give us that strong motivation, that discipline, resilience and willpower, that no one and nothing else would be able to give us.

We all have dreams, and we should use them to reach our biggest goals. Having a dream means being motivated. And being motivated is dangerous – but in a good way. When you are motivated you can achieve (almost) anything!

Your Power

Motivation is something that guides humans every day, but if we don’t have a dream, we have no motivation.

We should all make sure to have something that motivates us, because motivation creates that invisible force that gives us enough self-discipline and patience to be consistent, especially when we feel like giving up.

We are like cars, and dreams are our fuel: without them we would keep staying in the same place, trying to start a car that will never move. While, when we really want something, we do move and we become unstoppable.

Have you ever made a dream come true? Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

Mental Toughness

Mental toughness is a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence.
[Wikipedia]

Very interesting!
But, how can I develop my mental toughness?
It’s not easy, and it’s not something you will build overnight.

Anyway, if you really want to succeed and you are learning to think big, it might be much easier than in normal conditions.
The important thing – or even better, the vital thing – is that you never give up, believe in what you armountaine doing and strongly desire to reach your “holy destination”, this is, your life goals, or your personal mission.

As Stephen Covey, said in his masterpiece “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, you need to begin with the end in mind, and visualize what you want in the future so that you know exactly what to make a reality.

When you really want to achieve a goal or realize a dream, and you have the right tools, the right habits and a strong motivation, believe me, nothing will stop you.
And you already know that, you only needed me to remind you that 😉

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The Importance of Delayed Gratification

Delayed Gratification, is the ability to resist the temptation for an immediate reward and wait for a later reward.
Generally, delayed gratification is associated with resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later. (1)

This concept is really important, and you should apply this in your everyday life, especially if you are working on your personal growth.

Everytime you are tempted to postpone one of your daily tasks, in order to relax or to watch tv, you are letting procrastination control your life and weaken your self-discipline, decreasing your productivity.

So, be careful, focus on your real goals, and always remember the concept of delayed gratification: it is better to receive a larger reward later, than a smaller but more immediate one.
And keep in mind this quote:

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.
Og Mandino

delayed gratification

(1) Carducci, Bernardo J. (2009). "Basic Processes of Mischel's Cognitive-Affective Perspective: Delay of Gratification and Conditions of Behavioral Consistency"

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5 Secrets to Increase your Productivity and to See Results

Have you ever thought that being productive and attain success could be simpler than you imagine?

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
Lao Tzu.

This is, you only have to go towards what your goal is, step by step.
But you have to do it. You have to…

1 Take action.
Every minute you’re wasting your time checking the social networks or your mobile phone, you’re not taking action getting you closer to you dreams.
Sometimes we prefer immediate and temporary pleasure instead of consistent and permanent success – which in psychology is also called “delayed gratification” – and we procrastinate.

2 Do not procrastinate.
Procrastination is the worst enemy of productivity.
Every time you are looking for an excuse to postpone a task you should do – and every time you find an excuse to postpone your daily tasks – you are giving space to procrastination.
This is the worst error ever, and you should eliminate this attitude from your routine if you really want to increase productivity and attain success.
Remember the to-do list? If you plan every day your list and you stick to it, it will be the best tool ever to avoid procrastination.

3 Find the right motivation.
If you don’t have the right amount of motivation, it will be really hard to be productive, and it will be easier to procrastinate: you have to know exactly where you want to go, and you have to walk every day towards what I call your “holy destination”.

4 Have a plan.
You should know exactly what you have to do every day, every week and every month.
You should plan your activities in advance in order to efficiently manage your time – instead of wasting it.

5 Never give up.
Remember that real success takes time.
And that giving up is the worst enemy of success and self-esteem.
Sometimes it happens that, after days, months or years of efforts and work, we give up, just because we can’t see results. Sometimes it happens that, in the very moment success is right around the corner, we can’t see it, and since we are exhausted, we decide to give up.
This is why I want you to understand how important it is to never give up.
I want you to look at this image and download it if you want to, because it represents exactly the importance of being resilient and insist on your goals.
I have it in my cell phone and I look at it every time I need to feel motivated and it always makes me feel energized.

Never give up
So, don’t forget to print out this article, and to look at it every day.
Hope it will accompany you in your travel towards success!

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