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The Art of Getting What You Want: The 3P Factor

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
– Colin Powell

Have you ever heard of the Giant Bamboo story?
If you listen to the story, I’m sure you will immediately understand how important it can be in your life, and how much you can learn from it.
Watch this video, and then feel free to share your experience in the comments.

 

The underlying message of this video is:

“Even though you can’t see concrete results right now, don’t stop, don’t give up, just keep moving forward, you will receive a reward at the end of your journey. But please, don’t stop!”

So, what is this video about?

The man in the video was working hard, but he somehow started to feel discouraged, as he could not see immediate results. That is, he didn’t feel as he was developing himself and he hadn’t seen any meaningful achievement for a while.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t producing any outcome. He was working on his personal growth, and his better version of himself was growing a little bit every day “under the ground”, but he didn’t know that. He just couldn’t see it.

His mentor explained to him that even though he couldn’t see results or concrete achievements yet, he was learning and developing himself. This process was necessary for his potential to grow.

With this video, we saw that “daily watering” – that is, small daily actions and good habits – is the most important thing.
All those small steps that contribute to our personal growth, or to the development of a project, make a small difference every day. And they are the key to big accomplishments.
Over time, they become realized in a sudden and surprising growth. If we know this, we are already on the right path to get where we want.

When we work hard, we’ll necessarily experience a period of time in which we can’t see an outcome.
During that period it’s vital to remember that we are building something big, and we can’t stop.

The 3P Factor: the art of getting what you want

When we want to succeed in something, we absolutely need the appropriate knowledge and the right skills, but that’s not enough. That’s probably 50% of what we need: it’s also essential to have the right mindset and attitude.

This is actually what makes the difference, because in order to reach our goals we need those qualities that boost our personal growth. And I’m referring to those features that give us the strength to get exactly where we want: perseverance and patience. These two elements together are what we need to make things simpler, possible and attainable. When we learn to be patient and to never give up, we start overcoming our limits and our fears.

When we understand that sometimes delayed gratifications are better than immediate rewards, we start learning and practicing patience and perseverance in our life.
We start doing things we were scared of, and little by little we start to unleash our potential.

3P stands for…

The 3P Factor is the magic combination of:

  1. Patience,
  2. Perseverance and
  3. Potential

Patience is the ability to get rid of the need of seeing results immediately.
In other words is the ability to wait for delayed gratification and to give up on immediate pleasure or lower value gratification.

Perseverance is the ability to be resilient and to keep going without stopping, even when we lose hope.

Potential is the set of skills and abilities that could lead us to realize our dreams, but we need to “activate” it by taking action, being patient and persistent.

These three elements together are what helps us and supports us when we can’t see results and consequently feel discouraged, they are what takes us beyond our limits even when we don’t believe in ourselves anymore.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.

-Robert H. Schuller

If the key to getting what we want is being persistent – with patience – it’s important to know how to improve our perseverance.

And to do that we must remember that if we “water” our potential it with patience, perseverance, good habits and small daily actions, we can reach almost anything, and we can develop the art of getting what we want.

Sometimes great achievements arrive later than we expect, but they arrive, and they are great.
All we have to do is patiently persevere in maximizing our potential.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

– Confucius

Feel free to leave a comment and share your experience! 🙂

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How To Revolution Your Life: 8 Steps

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. John F. Kennedy

There is always something that we don’t like in our life. It’s true, there is always a reason to complain.
It could be our house, our job, our car, our boss, our slow and old computer, or maybe our mobile phone.
It could be that we don’t like the way we are, we would like to be happier, more charming, productive, smart, funny and interesting.

But, the question is: can we change all this?
The good news is that you can change all this, but you need to desire the change from within.
Because if you don’t feel the need to change, if you don’t feel the right motivation to change for the better, it’s difficult to see results.

But if you are reading this article you are probably willing to change something of you, and what I suggest is: don’t be scared! Or at least, try it.
Fear is what blocks or slows us down most, and prevents us from living the life of our dreams.
So, let’s see the rules you need to follow to finally revolution your life.

1. Tidy Up
Yes, you read “tidy up”. The first favor you should do yourself is to tidy up your house.
Your clothes, you books, your perfumes and body creams in the bathroom, the notes around the house and whatever you know you should put in order or get rid of. Believe me, after this clean up you will somehow feel “new”.

2. Save Money Every Month
If you save 15 or 20 percent of your income every month, at the end of the year you can choose to make yourself a gift, like a trip, a car, a watch, a new mobile phone, or a computer, or to wait a little longer and save more many for a bigger and delayed gratification.

3. Set a Goal
Setting a goal not only will make you feel motivated, but it will also add a challenge to your life, and it will literally help you get through your days and weeks with energy.
For example you want to learn a new skill to be better at your job, you want to get a master or you want to work more to get promoted.
Whatever the goal is, you now have something to achieve, and you don’t go to work just to survive and to pay your bills.
You go to work to perform well your tasks to get promoted in the future or to get more experience in order to find a better job.

4. Travel
Travel at least once every two or three months.
If you can’t take holidays, travel on weekends.
But do it, take some time for yourself, take a flight and go discover new places, it’s therapeutic and it will open your mind.

5. Plan Your Days
I can’t stress enough how important this is: planning the day and the week is vital for a good quality of life.
If you plan your days, you won’t have to repeatedly waste energies on making decisions throughout the day. You will already know what you have to do.

6. Smile
If you see someone you know in the street, give this person a big and beautiful smile and ask how their life is.
Being genuinely interested in others will help you have good and healthy friendships, and it will obviously make you feel better.

7. Watch What You Eat
They say we are what we eat, and I think they’re right.
We shouldn’t eat whatever we find in the fridge, but we should nourish our body to have the right energy to face our day.
Food affects our mood, the way we feel and the way our body functions.
Try to eat a little bit of everything, and try to include proteins, vegetables, some carbohydrates, and fruit to your daily diet.
So, remember the importance of eating the right food, and consider it as an ally.

8. Buy Something You Have Wanted for a Long Time
I know I told you to save your money. But I suggest you to start your revolution buying a gift for yourself, doing something nice for yourself or indulging in something.
This way you will start the real change, you will start from yourself.

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Success: 2 Simple Habits

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle
Napoleon Hill

We have talked about success in several articles, and we talked about good habits related to success in life.
The big question: which are the best habits one should have to succeed in something in particular?

1. Practice
The most important thing to do when you want to be better at your job, a sport or something you enjoy doing, is to practice.
It’s extremely simple, the more you do something, the better you become.

2. Learning new skills
This is, you have to improve yourself and your competencies every day, if what you want is success.
Imagine two people with the same job, same academic background and same age. The first one invests at least half an hour every day in learning new things, reading and improving his/her skills, while the second one is satisfied with his/her job and doesn’t feel the need to grow.

Now, try to imagine these two people after 10 years. I bet you can see a difference.
The first person has probably become an important manager or, who knows maybe the CEO of a company.
And he/she has probably a very high level of self-esteem, and a good quality of life.
Meanwhile, the second one has probably grown in his/her profession, but he/she gets a quarter, or less, the salary of the first person, being likely to experience a sense of frustration not having achieved a lot during the last 10 years.
As you can see, everything we do today affects what we will be in the future, especially in the long-term.

As Napoleon Hill said, remember that any effort you make to develop your skills, or to develop yourself as a person, must be continuous.

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The Importance of Delayed Gratification

Delayed Gratification, is the ability to resist the temptation for an immediate reward and wait for a later reward.
Generally, delayed gratification is associated with resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later. (1)

This concept is really important, and you should apply this in your everyday life, especially if you are working on your personal growth.

Everytime you are tempted to postpone one of your daily tasks, in order to relax or to watch tv, you are letting procrastination control your life and weaken your self-discipline, decreasing your productivity.

So, be careful, focus on your real goals, and always remember the concept of delayed gratification: it is better to receive a larger reward later, than a smaller but more immediate one.
And keep in mind this quote:

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.
Og Mandino

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(1) Carducci, Bernardo J. (2009). "Basic Processes of Mischel's Cognitive-Affective Perspective: Delay of Gratification and Conditions of Behavioral Consistency"

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