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How To Increase Your Self-Esteem

What you accomplish every day is to your self-esteem, what water is to your life.
– Sara Maya Smith

Everyone has goals. However, committing to the right goals and being able to achieve them is what shows who you really are. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to anything we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what? We are not able to reach all of them and we feel frustrated, and this has a negative impact on our self-esteem.

As a result, the value that we give to ourselves in a similar situation is quite low, and we feel worthless, because we feel that we’re not able to keep a promise to ourselves.  Instead, if we choose to select only a few goals, and we focus on and commit to them, we make possible their achievement, and we feel much better.

Proving our value to ourselves is essential for our self-confidence and the way we feel.  And the best way to do it, is by being consistent and taking action every day, taking all those small steps that will take us to our long-term and bigger accomplishments. The moment we start to see the first results, our self-esteem slowly starts to increase, and reaches a higher level every time we achieve a long-term goal.

So in a nutshell, the steps to increase your self-esteem are:

  • Identify your goals.
  • Focus on a selected number of goals.
  • Identify which are the steps to reach those goals.
  • Take action every day and move toward your goals.
  • Be consistent.
  • Don’t give up.

If you follow these steps, you will automatically feel satisfied, and this will have a great impact on your self-confidence.

It’s not easy to attain the desired results, but with the right motivation and self-discipline everything is possible. And it’s definitely something that anyone can learn.

Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

3 Simple Truths About Success

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.
– Benjamin Franklin

Success doesn’t come overnight

Have you ever thought about the high level of success you could attain, if only you spent one hour a day improving your skills and abilities?
Have you ever thought where you could be now, if only you started to work for your goals one year ago? And what if you started five years ago?
You see, it’s all about small steps, consistency and motivation. When we know what we want, we can reach any goal, if we take action.
But we have to work for it: success doesn’t come overnight, and unleashing our potential requires hard work and determination.

Discipline is the only predictor of success, no shortcuts!

If you really want to shift your life, you have to behave as if you were your own employer.
You need to be a demanding employer with yourself, and you need to be a highly responsible employee at the same time, working as if you you had a demanding boss always controlling you.
You need discipline, because real accomplishments come with patience, perseverance and hard work.

Organization is the key

Step-by-step improvement is a simple concept, but if you don’t get organized, you can make it difficult, and you might feel overwhelmed, nervous, and frustrated, because you don’t even know where to start.
The simplest way to structure your life is writing down all the things you have to do, and organize your life daily. You can use a to-do list, your agenda, or a blackboard, but the most important thing is to write down everything, in order to avoid mental stress.

Practice the philosophy of continuous improvement. Get a little bit better every single day.
– Brian Tracy

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The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

The world is giving you answers each day, learn to listen.
— Unknown

Anytime we are working on something, we can either listen to positive and constructive feedback and improve, or let negative people bring us down.

The mental process that can put us both on the right or the wrong path – that is, success or failure – is represented in a nice infographic below.

Enjoy it and don’t hesitate to share it with your friends and colleagues!

The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

You can find this infographic on Lifehack.org too!

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The Art of Getting What You Want: The 3P Factor

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
– Colin Powell

Have you ever heard of the Giant Bamboo story?
If you listen to the story, I’m sure you will immediately understand how important it can be in your life, and how much you can learn from it.
Watch this video, and then feel free to share your experience in the comments.

 

The underlying message of this video is:

“Even though you can’t see concrete results right now, don’t stop, don’t give up, just keep moving forward, you will receive a reward at the end of your journey. But please, don’t stop!”

So, what is this video about?

The man in the video was working hard, but he somehow started to feel discouraged, as he could not see immediate results. That is, he didn’t feel as he was developing himself and he hadn’t seen any meaningful achievement for a while.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t producing any outcome. He was working on his personal growth, and his better version of himself was growing a little bit every day “under the ground”, but he didn’t know that. He just couldn’t see it.

His mentor explained to him that even though he couldn’t see results or concrete achievements yet, he was learning and developing himself. This process was necessary for his potential to grow.

With this video, we saw that “daily watering” – that is, small daily actions and good habits – is the most important thing.
All those small steps that contribute to our personal growth, or to the development of a project, make a small difference every day. And they are the key to big accomplishments.
Over time, they become realized in a sudden and surprising growth. If we know this, we are already on the right path to get where we want.

When we work hard, we’ll necessarily experience a period of time in which we can’t see an outcome.
During that period it’s vital to remember that we are building something big, and we can’t stop.

The 3P Factor: the art of getting what you want

When we want to succeed in something, we absolutely need the appropriate knowledge and the right skills, but that’s not enough. That’s probably 50% of what we need: it’s also essential to have the right mindset and attitude.

This is actually what makes the difference, because in order to reach our goals we need those qualities that boost our personal growth. And I’m referring to those features that give us the strength to get exactly where we want: perseverance and patience. These two elements together are what we need to make things simpler, possible and attainable. When we learn to be patient and to never give up, we start overcoming our limits and our fears.

When we understand that sometimes delayed gratifications are better than immediate rewards, we start learning and practicing patience and perseverance in our life.
We start doing things we were scared of, and little by little we start to unleash our potential.

3P stands for…

The 3P Factor is the magic combination of:

  1. Patience,
  2. Perseverance and
  3. Potential

Patience is the ability to get rid of the need of seeing results immediately.
In other words is the ability to wait for delayed gratification and to give up on immediate pleasure or lower value gratification.

Perseverance is the ability to be resilient and to keep going without stopping, even when we lose hope.

Potential is the set of skills and abilities that could lead us to realize our dreams, but we need to “activate” it by taking action, being patient and persistent.

These three elements together are what helps us and supports us when we can’t see results and consequently feel discouraged, they are what takes us beyond our limits even when we don’t believe in ourselves anymore.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.

-Robert H. Schuller

If the key to getting what we want is being persistent – with patience – it’s important to know how to improve our perseverance.

And to do that we must remember that if we “water” our potential it with patience, perseverance, good habits and small daily actions, we can reach almost anything, and we can develop the art of getting what we want.

Sometimes great achievements arrive later than we expect, but they arrive, and they are great.
All we have to do is patiently persevere in maximizing our potential.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

– Confucius

Feel free to leave a comment and share your experience! 🙂

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How To Use Challenges As Our Best Friends

Don’t be afraid of challenges, let them take you somewhere new, relax and be awesome.
– Sara Maya Smith

Our thoughts shape our actions, and our actions shape our destiny. Negative thinking affects our reality, our life, and our level of success, limiting our potential.

When we are afraid of something, the first things we impulsively tell ourselves is “I can’t deal with that,” “Maybe I’m not ready to deal with it,” “I think I’m not good enough to face this.”  And what happens? Well, it’s pretty simple: it happens that we don’t even try to overcome our fear. Also, what happens here is that we think we cannot do something, and this thought prevents us from taking action. We lose plenty of opportunities when we live our daily life with this mindset.

What to do

The first step we should take instead, is to face the obstacle immediately. The obstacle in this case is our negative thought. And how do we face a negative thought? We have two options:

  1. replacing it with a positive thought immediately, and take action;
  2. ignoring it, improvising something and behaving as if we actually have control.

Whatever the choice is, we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zone. So, which are the steps to do that?

Steps to get out of our comfort zone:

  1. Ignore or replace any negative thoughts: This first step is the easiest one. We just have to stop letting negative thoughts and feelings take over, and switch immediately to the second step, which is…
  2. Take action: It’s important to take the first step. This can be any small step, like building a simple and small habit.
  3. You did it! Before we even realize it, we did something we thought we couldn’t do. And this is actually a first step to build a healthy self-confidence, that will help us step out of our comfort zone in the future.

Actually, doing what we think we cannot do, is the key to real growth. Leaving our comfort zone and pushing ourselves beyond our limits, is the key to improvement. Normally, people think that progress means living the life they are supposed to live, going from being a child to being a teenager, from being an adult to retiring, and the majority of people live this way. People do not even ask themselves if they can do more, if they can live a better life or if they can be happier.

Real growth is not about being how we are supposed to be; it is not about being as others want us to be. Real personal growth is unleashing our potential and going beyond our limits. It means thinking outside the box, always, looking at ourselves from unusual perspectives.

The only way to unleash our potential is to stop overthinking, and take action; the first step is the simplest one, but also the hardest one. And it’s worth a try: once we take that step, we impress ourselves with how far we can go, and how much we can achieve, despite all the people who told us that we couldn’t because it was “impossible.”

Remember: IMPOSSIBLE = I’M POSSIBLE 🙂

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The 5 Books of Success

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.
Joseph Addison

If you want to learn about life or about people, if you want to become wiser, to open your mind or to train you mind, reading is the best way to spend your time.

Sometimes books have the power to inspire and help us find the way to shift our life, and I believe that they have the potential to help us achieve success.
Reading is the ideal hobby for avid and curious life learners, and I find that books about personal growth, psychology and life, can teach a lot, and sometimes they can add more to our life than an expensive presential course.

So, I want to share with you the books that changed me and forced me to rethink my attitude towards life, and that I consider extremely inspiring:

1. Tony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
2. Dale Carnegie –  How to Win Friends & Influence People
3. Stephen Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
4. Wayne Dyer – Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life
5. David Allen – Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

Enjoy the 5 books and let me know what you think.
Feel free to share your opinion in the comments.

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How Successful People Plan Their Days: 6 Habits to Emulate

Successful people always have a full and well organized schedule.
And you should emulate their habits starting today, if you want to feel fulfilled and satisfied.

1. They wake up early
Of course they wake up early, they have to review the to-do list they wrote the night before, and fix it well in their mind.
And they have the breakfast ritual, to boost their energy and start their exciting and challenging day.

2. They exercise in the morning
They know how physical activity is good for their body and health, and how it helps them stay focus throughout the day. So they exercise, even if for only 15 minutes a day.

3. They meditate in the morning
We already talked several times about the great influence of meditation on our mind. But, do we apply this to our lives?
I do that, because I really believe in it.
And successful people do it too, because they know how important regular meditation is to their brain. And what about you? 😉

4. They are not late at work or at school
No excuses. Being late is a clear sign of a bad time management. And people who use to be late are usually seen as unable to take care of themselves, and unreliable.
They also feel a sense of lack of control, and they get nervous because they’re late, affecting negatively their day.
This is why successful people are never late, they know how important punctuality is.

5. They focus on what they do
Since they know how to manage their time, successful people know how to concentrate their efforts on their job during a certain period of time, without letting anything nor anyone distract them.
They have some time for their friends, colleagues, family, hobbies and other distractions, but not during work or school time.

6. They spend time on learning something every day
They are successful because they never stopped learning.
Usually the people we are talking about are curious and humble, and they know that there is always something to learn.
They want to improve and to add always something good to their lives, and they always find the energy to do that (maybe because they had breakfast in the morning 😉 ).

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Success: 2 Simple Habits

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle
Napoleon Hill

We have talked about success in several articles, and we talked about good habits related to success in life.
The big question: which are the best habits one should have to succeed in something in particular?

1. Practice
The most important thing to do when you want to be better at your job, a sport or something you enjoy doing, is to practice.
It’s extremely simple, the more you do something, the better you become.

2. Learning new skills
This is, you have to improve yourself and your competencies every day, if what you want is success.
Imagine two people with the same job, same academic background and same age. The first one invests at least half an hour every day in learning new things, reading and improving his/her skills, while the second one is satisfied with his/her job and doesn’t feel the need to grow.

Now, try to imagine these two people after 10 years. I bet you can see a difference.
The first person has probably become an important manager or, who knows maybe the CEO of a company.
And he/she has probably a very high level of self-esteem, and a good quality of life.
Meanwhile, the second one has probably grown in his/her profession, but he/she gets a quarter, or less, the salary of the first person, being likely to experience a sense of frustration not having achieved a lot during the last 10 years.
As you can see, everything we do today affects what we will be in the future, especially in the long-term.

As Napoleon Hill said, remember that any effort you make to develop your skills, or to develop yourself as a person, must be continuous.

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Mental Toughness

Mental toughness is a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence.
[Wikipedia]

Very interesting!
But, how can I develop my mental toughness?
It’s not easy, and it’s not something you will build overnight.

Anyway, if you really want to succeed and you are learning to think big, it might be much easier than in normal conditions.
The important thing – or even better, the vital thing – is that you never give up, believe in what you armountaine doing and strongly desire to reach your “holy destination”, this is, your life goals, or your personal mission.

As Stephen Covey, said in his masterpiece “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, you need to begin with the end in mind, and visualize what you want in the future so that you know exactly what to make a reality.

When you really want to achieve a goal or realize a dream, and you have the right tools, the right habits and a strong motivation, believe me, nothing will stop you.
And you already know that, you only needed me to remind you that 😉

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