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How To Increase Your Self-Esteem

What you accomplish every day is to your self-esteem, what water is to your life.
– Sara Maya Smith

Everyone has goals. However, committing to the right goals and being able to achieve them is what shows who you really are. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to anything we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what? We are not able to reach all of them and we feel frustrated, and this has a negative impact on our self-esteem.

As a result, the value that we give to ourselves in a similar situation is quite low, and we feel worthless, because we feel that we’re not able to keep a promise to ourselves.  Instead, if we choose to select only a few goals, and we focus on and commit to them, we make possible their achievement, and we feel much better.

Proving our value to ourselves is essential for our self-confidence and the way we feel.  And the best way to do it, is by being consistent and taking action every day, taking all those small steps that will take us to our long-term and bigger accomplishments. The moment we start to see the first results, our self-esteem slowly starts to increase, and reaches a higher level every time we achieve a long-term goal.

So in a nutshell, the steps to increase your self-esteem are:

  • Identify your goals.
  • Focus on a selected number of goals.
  • Identify which are the steps to reach those goals.
  • Take action every day and move toward your goals.
  • Be consistent.
  • Don’t give up.

If you follow these steps, you will automatically feel satisfied, and this will have a great impact on your self-confidence.

It’s not easy to attain the desired results, but with the right motivation and self-discipline everything is possible. And it’s definitely something that anyone can learn.

Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

The Art of Getting What You Want: The 3P Factor

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.
– Colin Powell

Have you ever heard of the Giant Bamboo story?
If you listen to the story, I’m sure you will immediately understand how important it can be in your life, and how much you can learn from it.
Watch this video, and then feel free to share your experience in the comments.

 

The underlying message of this video is:

“Even though you can’t see concrete results right now, don’t stop, don’t give up, just keep moving forward, you will receive a reward at the end of your journey. But please, don’t stop!”

So, what is this video about?

The man in the video was working hard, but he somehow started to feel discouraged, as he could not see immediate results. That is, he didn’t feel as he was developing himself and he hadn’t seen any meaningful achievement for a while.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t producing any outcome. He was working on his personal growth, and his better version of himself was growing a little bit every day “under the ground”, but he didn’t know that. He just couldn’t see it.

His mentor explained to him that even though he couldn’t see results or concrete achievements yet, he was learning and developing himself. This process was necessary for his potential to grow.

With this video, we saw that “daily watering” – that is, small daily actions and good habits – is the most important thing.
All those small steps that contribute to our personal growth, or to the development of a project, make a small difference every day. And they are the key to big accomplishments.
Over time, they become realized in a sudden and surprising growth. If we know this, we are already on the right path to get where we want.

When we work hard, we’ll necessarily experience a period of time in which we can’t see an outcome.
During that period it’s vital to remember that we are building something big, and we can’t stop.

The 3P Factor: the art of getting what you want

When we want to succeed in something, we absolutely need the appropriate knowledge and the right skills, but that’s not enough. That’s probably 50% of what we need: it’s also essential to have the right mindset and attitude.

This is actually what makes the difference, because in order to reach our goals we need those qualities that boost our personal growth. And I’m referring to those features that give us the strength to get exactly where we want: perseverance and patience. These two elements together are what we need to make things simpler, possible and attainable. When we learn to be patient and to never give up, we start overcoming our limits and our fears.

When we understand that sometimes delayed gratifications are better than immediate rewards, we start learning and practicing patience and perseverance in our life.
We start doing things we were scared of, and little by little we start to unleash our potential.

3P stands for…

The 3P Factor is the magic combination of:

  1. Patience,
  2. Perseverance and
  3. Potential

Patience is the ability to get rid of the need of seeing results immediately.
In other words is the ability to wait for delayed gratification and to give up on immediate pleasure or lower value gratification.

Perseverance is the ability to be resilient and to keep going without stopping, even when we lose hope.

Potential is the set of skills and abilities that could lead us to realize our dreams, but we need to “activate” it by taking action, being patient and persistent.

These three elements together are what helps us and supports us when we can’t see results and consequently feel discouraged, they are what takes us beyond our limits even when we don’t believe in ourselves anymore.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.

-Robert H. Schuller

If the key to getting what we want is being persistent – with patience – it’s important to know how to improve our perseverance.

And to do that we must remember that if we “water” our potential it with patience, perseverance, good habits and small daily actions, we can reach almost anything, and we can develop the art of getting what we want.

Sometimes great achievements arrive later than we expect, but they arrive, and they are great.
All we have to do is patiently persevere in maximizing our potential.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

– Confucius

Feel free to leave a comment and share your experience! 🙂

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If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It

If you can dream it, you can do it.
Walt Disney

Every time I read this Walt Disney’s quote, I get my small daily dose of motivation.

I think this quote gives you that nice and empowering feeling of being able to achieve whatever you want. But that goal that you want to achieve, has to be a dream and not just a whim. It’s essential to have a dream and strongly believe that you can bring it into reality.

The Importance of Having a Dream

With dream, I’m not referring to become a millionaire overnight, that would be quite unrealistic 🙂

I’m talking about that exciting idea in our head that makes us get up excited and motivated every morning, that makes us work hard to achieve something. Having a dream is powerful. A dream is that thing that we want so badly that we would do whatever it takes to achieve it. We wouldn’t find excuses to relax and give up on it.

If realistic and used wisely, a dream can give us that strong motivation, that discipline, resilience and willpower, that no one and nothing else would be able to give us.

We all have dreams, and we should use them to reach our biggest goals. Having a dream means being motivated. And being motivated is dangerous – but in a good way. When you are motivated you can achieve (almost) anything!

Your Power

Motivation is something that guides humans every day, but if we don’t have a dream, we have no motivation.

We should all make sure to have something that motivates us, because motivation creates that invisible force that gives us enough self-discipline and patience to be consistent, especially when we feel like giving up.

We are like cars, and dreams are our fuel: without them we would keep staying in the same place, trying to start a car that will never move. While, when we really want something, we do move and we become unstoppable.

Have you ever made a dream come true? Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

The 5 Books of Success

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.
Joseph Addison

If you want to learn about life or about people, if you want to become wiser, to open your mind or to train you mind, reading is the best way to spend your time.

Sometimes books have the power to inspire and help us find the way to shift our life, and I believe that they have the potential to help us achieve success.
Reading is the ideal hobby for avid and curious life learners, and I find that books about personal growth, psychology and life, can teach a lot, and sometimes they can add more to our life than an expensive presential course.

So, I want to share with you the books that changed me and forced me to rethink my attitude towards life, and that I consider extremely inspiring:

1. Tony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
2. Dale Carnegie –  How to Win Friends & Influence People
3. Stephen Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
4. Wayne Dyer – Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life
5. David Allen – Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

Enjoy the 5 books and let me know what you think.
Feel free to share your opinion in the comments.

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9 Things you Should Do Every Day

There are some habits that can significantly improve the quality of our lives.
In particular, today I want to share with you the 9 things that I find incredibly helpful for our challenging days.

1. Read

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.
Joseph Addison

It’s important to “feed” our mind with books, it keeps our brain fit and young, and it prevents dementia.
Also, it makes us wiser!

2. Exercise

We already talked a lot about the benefits of exercise.
Being a form of preventing diseases, it improves our brain performance, and keeps our body healthy.
So, it benefits both mind and body, which are strictly related.

3. Meditate

Regular meditation is one of the best habits you could ever develop.
As exercise, it’s extremely good both for your body and for your mind.
Plus, research showed that meditation develops some parts of our brain and strengthens the connections between neurons, in the long run.

4. Eat every 3 hours

This is very important, it gives us the right energy to perform appropriately all our tasks throughout the day, and helps accelerate our metabolism.

5. Eat one apple

Eating one apple a day is a rule. It’s a very healthy habit and it helps preventing diseases and to boost your brain performance.

6. Take a walk

Did you know that Steve Jobs used to walk every day for 1 or 2 hours?
Not only is it good to control your weight and tone your legs, but it benefits your mental performance and your mood.

7. Spend time on a hobby

Hobbies are a good tool to reduce stress and a good way to invest time in ourselves.
It’s important to spend time on something we really like to do, and I believe that not having hobbies in our life may affect our happiness.

8. Listen to music

Listening to music has the power to instantly change our mood.
This is why we should use it every day to add more energy and passion to what we do.

9. Drink green tea

This is obviously a very healthy habit.
Green tea contains B vitamins, magnesium, potassium and other antioxidants.
Also, it seems that it has a very positive impact on some kinds of cancer, even though it has not been demonstrated that green tea prevents so far.

You don’t need to do all these things every single day, but you should make sure to include all of them in your week and to spend some time on 3 or 4 of them every day.
However, some of these habits, such as eating every 3 hours, meditation and eating one apple a day, should be included in your daily plan.

Also, there are some habits that you can alternate, for example you can take a walk one day and exercise the other.

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Success: 2 Simple Habits

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle
Napoleon Hill

We have talked about success in several articles, and we talked about good habits related to success in life.
The big question: which are the best habits one should have to succeed in something in particular?

1. Practice
The most important thing to do when you want to be better at your job, a sport or something you enjoy doing, is to practice.
It’s extremely simple, the more you do something, the better you become.

2. Learning new skills
This is, you have to improve yourself and your competencies every day, if what you want is success.
Imagine two people with the same job, same academic background and same age. The first one invests at least half an hour every day in learning new things, reading and improving his/her skills, while the second one is satisfied with his/her job and doesn’t feel the need to grow.

Now, try to imagine these two people after 10 years. I bet you can see a difference.
The first person has probably become an important manager or, who knows maybe the CEO of a company.
And he/she has probably a very high level of self-esteem, and a good quality of life.
Meanwhile, the second one has probably grown in his/her profession, but he/she gets a quarter, or less, the salary of the first person, being likely to experience a sense of frustration not having achieved a lot during the last 10 years.
As you can see, everything we do today affects what we will be in the future, especially in the long-term.

As Napoleon Hill said, remember that any effort you make to develop your skills, or to develop yourself as a person, must be continuous.

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3 Ways to Improve your Self-Discipline

I don’t stop when I’m tired. I only stop when I’m done.
Marilyn Monroe

Self-discipline is everything if we want to successfully complete something we began. But it’s not always so easy to respect a schedule.
It’s our ability to resist to bad conditions, and our mental toughness that make us strong. And this strength that we see in successful people can be learned and developed.

1 Write your to-do list while you are having breakfast
This is a good habit, and as soon as you will get used to it, you will find it pleasant and challenging. Plus, you will realize how something so simple can be so useful.
You don’t like to have breakfast in the morning? Well, I strongly recommend you to have breakfast, because it’s not just “important”, it’s vital, if you want to be productive!

2 Cross all the items off your list
This will make you feel good and satisfied, and when you won’t be able to cross an item, you will feel a bit “guilty”.
Sounds sneaky? No, it’s only an efficient way to train yourself and your self-discipline.

3 Visualize what you will be in the future thanks to what you are doing today
The most important point. It’s a bit difficult to work hard when you don’t have a purpose in your life.
In other words, you need something to desire so much that you will feel motivated and you will be productive.

When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.
Eric Thomas

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Mental Toughness

Mental toughness is a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence.
[Wikipedia]

Very interesting!
But, how can I develop my mental toughness?
It’s not easy, and it’s not something you will build overnight.

Anyway, if you really want to succeed and you are learning to think big, it might be much easier than in normal conditions.
The important thing – or even better, the vital thing – is that you never give up, believe in what you armountaine doing and strongly desire to reach your “holy destination”, this is, your life goals, or your personal mission.

As Stephen Covey, said in his masterpiece “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, you need to begin with the end in mind, and visualize what you want in the future so that you know exactly what to make a reality.

When you really want to achieve a goal or realize a dream, and you have the right tools, the right habits and a strong motivation, believe me, nothing will stop you.
And you already know that, you only needed me to remind you that 😉

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