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How To Use Challenges As Our Best Friends

Don’t be afraid of challenges, let them take you somewhere new, relax and be awesome.
– Sara Maya Smith

Our thoughts shape our actions, and our actions shape our destiny. Negative thinking affects our reality, our life, and our level of success, limiting our potential.

When we are afraid of something, the first things we impulsively tell ourselves is “I can’t deal with that,” “Maybe I’m not ready to deal with it,” “I think I’m not good enough to face this.”  And what happens? Well, it’s pretty simple: it happens that we don’t even try to overcome our fear. Also, what happens here is that we think we cannot do something, and this thought prevents us from taking action. We lose plenty of opportunities when we live our daily life with this mindset.

What to do

The first step we should take instead, is to face the obstacle immediately. The obstacle in this case is our negative thought. And how do we face a negative thought? We have two options:

  1. replacing it with a positive thought immediately, and take action;
  2. ignoring it, improvising something and behaving as if we actually have control.

Whatever the choice is, we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zone. So, which are the steps to do that?

Steps to get out of our comfort zone:

  1. Ignore or replace any negative thoughts: This first step is the easiest one. We just have to stop letting negative thoughts and feelings take over, and switch immediately to the second step, which is…
  2. Take action: It’s important to take the first step. This can be any small step, like building a simple and small habit.
  3. You did it! Before we even realize it, we did something we thought we couldn’t do. And this is actually a first step to build a healthy self-confidence, that will help us step out of our comfort zone in the future.

Actually, doing what we think we cannot do, is the key to real growth. Leaving our comfort zone and pushing ourselves beyond our limits, is the key to improvement. Normally, people think that progress means living the life they are supposed to live, going from being a child to being a teenager, from being an adult to retiring, and the majority of people live this way. People do not even ask themselves if they can do more, if they can live a better life or if they can be happier.

Real growth is not about being how we are supposed to be; it is not about being as others want us to be. Real personal growth is unleashing our potential and going beyond our limits. It means thinking outside the box, always, looking at ourselves from unusual perspectives.

The only way to unleash our potential is to stop overthinking, and take action; the first step is the simplest one, but also the hardest one. And it’s worth a try: once we take that step, we impress ourselves with how far we can go, and how much we can achieve, despite all the people who told us that we couldn’t because it was “impossible.”

Remember: IMPOSSIBLE = I’M POSSIBLE 🙂

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Wayne Walter Dyer’s Best Lessons

As many of you already know, the world has lost one of the most inspiring and incredible men of this century, one of the best motivational speakers and best-selling authors of all times, Wayne Walter Dyer.
He passed away on August 29th, at the age of 75, and according to his family, he died in his sleep.

Since he brought a lot to my life and inspired me a lot during the last years, I deeply desire to share with you his most beautiful and important quotes about life, love, happiness and success.

  1. “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
  2. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
  3. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
  4. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.”
  5. “Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I’m going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.”
  6. “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with
    another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change
    you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you
    are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or
    frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about
    something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it
    is about you that is making you unhappy. ”
  7. “Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.”
  8. “When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace”
  9. “I am realistic – I expect miracles.”
  10. “You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”
  11. “In any relationship in which two people become one, the end result is two half people.”
  12. “Loving people live in a loving world, hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
  13. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
  14. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
  15. “I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.”
  16. “I am thankful to all those who said no. It’s because of them, I did it myself.”
  17. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
  18. “You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”
  19. “Present-moment living, getting in touch with your now, is at the heart of effective living. When you think about it, there really is no other moment you can live. Now is all there is, and the future is just another present moment to live when it arrives.”
  20. “Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.”
  21. “Love is co-operation rather than competition.”
  22. “It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
  23. “When you have the choice between being right and being kind just choose kind.”
  24. “The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”
  25. “There is no stress in the world, only people thinking stressful thoughts.”
  26. “Upon awakening, let the words Thank You flow from your lips, for this will remind you to begin your day with gratitude and compassion.”
  27. “Once you believe in yourself
    and see your soul as divine and precious,
    you’ll automatically be converted
    to a being who can create miracles.”

Hope Dr.Dyer’s wisdom will always accompany and inspire you in your daily routine.
And I’m sure the world will never forget such a great man.

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The 5 Books of Success

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.
Joseph Addison

If you want to learn about life or about people, if you want to become wiser, to open your mind or to train you mind, reading is the best way to spend your time.

Sometimes books have the power to inspire and help us find the way to shift our life, and I believe that they have the potential to help us achieve success.
Reading is the ideal hobby for avid and curious life learners, and I find that books about personal growth, psychology and life, can teach a lot, and sometimes they can add more to our life than an expensive presential course.

So, I want to share with you the books that changed me and forced me to rethink my attitude towards life, and that I consider extremely inspiring:

1. Tony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
2. Dale Carnegie –  How to Win Friends & Influence People
3. Stephen Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
4. Wayne Dyer – Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life
5. David Allen – Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

Enjoy the 5 books and let me know what you think.
Feel free to share your opinion in the comments.

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How To Revolution Your Life: 8 Steps

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. John F. Kennedy

There is always something that we don’t like in our life. It’s true, there is always a reason to complain.
It could be our house, our job, our car, our boss, our slow and old computer, or maybe our mobile phone.
It could be that we don’t like the way we are, we would like to be happier, more charming, productive, smart, funny and interesting.

But, the question is: can we change all this?
The good news is that you can change all this, but you need to desire the change from within.
Because if you don’t feel the need to change, if you don’t feel the right motivation to change for the better, it’s difficult to see results.

But if you are reading this article you are probably willing to change something of you, and what I suggest is: don’t be scared! Or at least, try it.
Fear is what blocks or slows us down most, and prevents us from living the life of our dreams.
So, let’s see the rules you need to follow to finally revolution your life.

1. Tidy Up
Yes, you read “tidy up”. The first favor you should do yourself is to tidy up your house.
Your clothes, you books, your perfumes and body creams in the bathroom, the notes around the house and whatever you know you should put in order or get rid of. Believe me, after this clean up you will somehow feel “new”.

2. Save Money Every Month
If you save 15 or 20 percent of your income every month, at the end of the year you can choose to make yourself a gift, like a trip, a car, a watch, a new mobile phone, or a computer, or to wait a little longer and save more many for a bigger and delayed gratification.

3. Set a Goal
Setting a goal not only will make you feel motivated, but it will also add a challenge to your life, and it will literally help you get through your days and weeks with energy.
For example you want to learn a new skill to be better at your job, you want to get a master or you want to work more to get promoted.
Whatever the goal is, you now have something to achieve, and you don’t go to work just to survive and to pay your bills.
You go to work to perform well your tasks to get promoted in the future or to get more experience in order to find a better job.

4. Travel
Travel at least once every two or three months.
If you can’t take holidays, travel on weekends.
But do it, take some time for yourself, take a flight and go discover new places, it’s therapeutic and it will open your mind.

5. Plan Your Days
I can’t stress enough how important this is: planning the day and the week is vital for a good quality of life.
If you plan your days, you won’t have to repeatedly waste energies on making decisions throughout the day. You will already know what you have to do.

6. Smile
If you see someone you know in the street, give this person a big and beautiful smile and ask how their life is.
Being genuinely interested in others will help you have good and healthy friendships, and it will obviously make you feel better.

7. Watch What You Eat
They say we are what we eat, and I think they’re right.
We shouldn’t eat whatever we find in the fridge, but we should nourish our body to have the right energy to face our day.
Food affects our mood, the way we feel and the way our body functions.
Try to eat a little bit of everything, and try to include proteins, vegetables, some carbohydrates, and fruit to your daily diet.
So, remember the importance of eating the right food, and consider it as an ally.

8. Buy Something You Have Wanted for a Long Time
I know I told you to save your money. But I suggest you to start your revolution buying a gift for yourself, doing something nice for yourself or indulging in something.
This way you will start the real change, you will start from yourself.

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How to be Successful: 3 Things you Need to Know

“Why do some people succeed, whereas others fail or give up?”
I think I’ve heard this question somewhere already, and you?
Maybe this is because we all share something in common, and this is the desire of being successful and important. But not many people are able to turn their dreams into reality.
The good news is that success can be achieved, even though it does not come easy.

To reach high levels of success, you must start to develop theimage habits of highly successful people.
Success requires constant hard work, an excellent time management, resilience and motivation – and these are common traits of efficient people, who managed to have a successful life.

There are some steps you need to follow, in order to develop the outstanding person you want to become and to feel satisfied and proud of who you are.

1. Write every day a to-do list and stick to it
First of all you should increase your self-esteem by taking action. You have to fill your days being as productive as you can, in order to achieve your goals.
A very useful tool that can help you organise your day is the to-do list.
It’s also very important that every day you cross all the items off your list.
If you can make this your daily goal, you will achieve a lot in the long run.
Plus, taking action will make you feel more confident, since it will show you what you are capable of.

2. Think big!
Second, remember to think big.
This is, you have to set big and realistic goals if you want to improve yourself and your life. You have to raise your standards, this is the only way to create success.
This said, don’t be too afraid of failure.
If you are too afraid of what the risks might be, you will stay forever in your comfort zone, and you won’t be able to raise your standards.
Plus, you won’t learn that much, and you won’t see any progress.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford

3. Do what others don’t like to do
Last but not least, I would like to share with you the most important secret of successful people.
According to Albert E.N. Gray, the common denominator of success – the secret of success of every person who has ever been successful – lies in the fact that the person formed the habit of doing things that others don’t like to do.

In other words, these people Gray refers to, one day decided to eliminate laziness and procrastination from their lives.
They started taking action, they created success investing in their competencies and managing their time, to achieve their long-term goals.
If you can do this – and believe me, you can – you will be able to dramatically change your life.

You have to train yourself to be constant and to never give up, to focus on your goals and on your desire of becoming successful, even though you will face difficult moments.
In those moments you will have to focus again on your goals and on how much you desire success; you will have to train your resilience, and you will become stronger in order to achieve more and more in your life.

I hope this post will help you to find the right motivation every day.
Have a nice day, and don’t forget your to-do list!

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