How To Increase Your Self-Esteem

What you accomplish every day is to your self-esteem, what water is to your life.
– Sara Maya Smith

Everyone has goals. However, committing to the right goals and being able to achieve them is what shows who you really are. In other words, if we dedicate our time and our efforts to anything we like, we have far too many objectives to reach. And guess what? We are not able to reach all of them and we feel frustrated, and this has a negative impact on our self-esteem.

As a result, the value that we give to ourselves in a similar situation is quite low, and we feel worthless, because we feel that we’re not able to keep a promise to ourselves.  Instead, if we choose to select only a few goals, and we focus on and commit to them, we make possible their achievement, and we feel much better.

Proving our value to ourselves is essential for our self-confidence and the way we feel.  And the best way to do it, is by being consistent and taking action every day, taking all those small steps that will take us to our long-term and bigger accomplishments. The moment we start to see the first results, our self-esteem slowly starts to increase, and reaches a higher level every time we achieve a long-term goal.

So in a nutshell, the steps to increase your self-esteem are:

  • Identify your goals.
  • Focus on a selected number of goals.
  • Identify which are the steps to reach those goals.
  • Take action every day and move toward your goals.
  • Be consistent.
  • Don’t give up.

If you follow these steps, you will automatically feel satisfied, and this will have a great impact on your self-confidence.

It’s not easy to attain the desired results, but with the right motivation and self-discipline everything is possible. And it’s definitely something that anyone can learn.

Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

3 Simple Truths About Success

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.
– Benjamin Franklin

Success doesn’t come overnight

Have you ever thought about the high level of success you could attain, if only you spent one hour a day improving your skills and abilities?
Have you ever thought where you could be now, if only you started to work for your goals one year ago? And what if you started five years ago?
You see, it’s all about small steps, consistency and motivation. When we know what we want, we can reach any goal, if we take action.
But we have to work for it: success doesn’t come overnight, and unleashing our potential requires hard work and determination.

Discipline is the only predictor of success, no shortcuts!

If you really want to shift your life, you have to behave as if you were your own employer.
You need to be a demanding employer with yourself, and you need to be a highly responsible employee at the same time, working as if you you had a demanding boss always controlling you.
You need discipline, because real accomplishments come with patience, perseverance and hard work.

Organization is the key

Step-by-step improvement is a simple concept, but if you don’t get organized, you can make it difficult, and you might feel overwhelmed, nervous, and frustrated, because you don’t even know where to start.
The simplest way to structure your life is writing down all the things you have to do, and organize your life daily. You can use a to-do list, your agenda, or a blackboard, but the most important thing is to write down everything, in order to avoid mental stress.

Practice the philosophy of continuous improvement. Get a little bit better every single day.
– Brian Tracy

Featured Image: Puzzle, Play, Piecing Together

 

 

The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

The world is giving you answers each day, learn to listen.
— Unknown

Anytime we are working on something, we can either listen to positive and constructive feedback and improve, or let negative people bring us down.

The mental process that can put us both on the right or the wrong path – that is, success or failure – is represented in a nice infographic below.

Enjoy it and don’t hesitate to share it with your friends and colleagues!

The Real Gap Between Success and Failure

You can find this infographic on Lifehack.org too!

Featured Image: Foundry

If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It

If you can dream it, you can do it.
Walt Disney

Every time I read this Walt Disney’s quote, I get my small daily dose of motivation.

I think this quote gives you that nice and empowering feeling of being able to achieve whatever you want. But that goal that you want to achieve, has to be a dream and not just a whim. It’s essential to have a dream and strongly believe that you can bring it into reality.

The Importance of Having a Dream

With dream, I’m not referring to become a millionaire overnight, that would be quite unrealistic 🙂

I’m talking about that exciting idea in our head that makes us get up excited and motivated every morning, that makes us work hard to achieve something. Having a dream is powerful. A dream is that thing that we want so badly that we would do whatever it takes to achieve it. We wouldn’t find excuses to relax and give up on it.

If realistic and used wisely, a dream can give us that strong motivation, that discipline, resilience and willpower, that no one and nothing else would be able to give us.

We all have dreams, and we should use them to reach our biggest goals. Having a dream means being motivated. And being motivated is dangerous – but in a good way. When you are motivated you can achieve (almost) anything!

Your Power

Motivation is something that guides humans every day, but if we don’t have a dream, we have no motivation.

We should all make sure to have something that motivates us, because motivation creates that invisible force that gives us enough self-discipline and patience to be consistent, especially when we feel like giving up.

We are like cars, and dreams are our fuel: without them we would keep staying in the same place, trying to start a car that will never move. While, when we really want something, we do move and we become unstoppable.

Have you ever made a dream come true? Feel free to share your experience in the comments! 🙂

 

Wayne Walter Dyer’s Best Lessons

As many of you already know, the world has lost one of the most inspiring and incredible men of this century, one of the best motivational speakers and best-selling authors of all times, Wayne Walter Dyer.
He passed away on August 29th, at the age of 75, and according to his family, he died in his sleep.

Since he brought a lot to my life and inspired me a lot during the last years, I deeply desire to share with you his most beautiful and important quotes about life, love, happiness and success.

  1. “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
  2. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
  3. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
  4. “You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.”
  5. “Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I’m going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.”
  6. “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with
    another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change
    you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you
    are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or
    frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about
    something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it
    is about you that is making you unhappy. ”
  7. “Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.”
  8. “When the choice is to be right or to be kind, always make the choice that brings peace”
  9. “I am realistic – I expect miracles.”
  10. “You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”
  11. “In any relationship in which two people become one, the end result is two half people.”
  12. “Loving people live in a loving world, hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
  13. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
  14. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
  15. “I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.”
  16. “I am thankful to all those who said no. It’s because of them, I did it myself.”
  17. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
  18. “You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”
  19. “Present-moment living, getting in touch with your now, is at the heart of effective living. When you think about it, there really is no other moment you can live. Now is all there is, and the future is just another present moment to live when it arrives.”
  20. “Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.”
  21. “Love is co-operation rather than competition.”
  22. “It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
  23. “When you have the choice between being right and being kind just choose kind.”
  24. “The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”
  25. “There is no stress in the world, only people thinking stressful thoughts.”
  26. “Upon awakening, let the words Thank You flow from your lips, for this will remind you to begin your day with gratitude and compassion.”
  27. “Once you believe in yourself
    and see your soul as divine and precious,
    you’ll automatically be converted
    to a being who can create miracles.”

Hope Dr.Dyer’s wisdom will always accompany and inspire you in your daily routine.
And I’m sure the world will never forget such a great man.

Featured Image: Patrick Nouhailler

Creative Commons License
This work by www.youperfect.org is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
Based on a work at www.youperfect.org.
Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at www.youperfect.org.

The 5 Books of Success

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.
Joseph Addison

If you want to learn about life or about people, if you want to become wiser, to open your mind or to train you mind, reading is the best way to spend your time.

Sometimes books have the power to inspire and help us find the way to shift our life, and I believe that they have the potential to help us achieve success.
Reading is the ideal hobby for avid and curious life learners, and I find that books about personal growth, psychology and life, can teach a lot, and sometimes they can add more to our life than an expensive presential course.

So, I want to share with you the books that changed me and forced me to rethink my attitude towards life, and that I consider extremely inspiring:

1. Tony Robbins – Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
2. Dale Carnegie –  How to Win Friends & Influence People
3. Stephen Covey – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
4. Wayne Dyer – Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life
5. David Allen – Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

Enjoy the 5 books and let me know what you think.
Feel free to share your opinion in the comments.

Creative Commons License
This work by www.youperfect.org is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
Based on a work at www.youperfect.org.
Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at www.youperfect.org.

The Secret Of The Soldier You Should Know

If you lose one battle, don’t give up.
Get up again, you have a war to win.
S. M.

You may think: “Why are we talking about soldiers today? That’s too much for me, I’m not that strong, I’m not a hero. I’m just a normal person who lives a normal life in a normal city with a job, a family and a house, like everyone else. I’m not strong enough to become a soldier.”

I want you to understand that you can be a soldier if you want.
And I want to share with you what I call the secret of the soldier.
What I mean with the word soldier is a valorous, determined and firm individual, who doesn’t let anything or anyone stop him or her.

A soldier gets hurt all the time, but keeps fighting and doesn’t even think of abandoning. And this is his secret: the strong tenacity and determination, in spite of his wounds.
A soldier doesn’t let the future and the adversities scare him, and always has the courage and strength to face his battles.

But we all get hurt, and quite often, and we all should keep going and face our daily challenges, exactly like a soldier.
This is why, when things don’t go the way you expected, all you have to do is to act like a soldier, and bear the pain of your wounds, because you are alive and you have a war to win: you have to achieve what you always wanted in your life.

Remember that you can overcome anything, if you decide to.
So, be a soldier, never give up, and fight your war until the end.

Creative Commons License
This work by www.youperfect.org is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
Based on a work at www.youperfect.org.
Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at www.youperfect.org.

How To Revolution Your Life: 8 Steps

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. John F. Kennedy

There is always something that we don’t like in our life. It’s true, there is always a reason to complain.
It could be our house, our job, our car, our boss, our slow and old computer, or maybe our mobile phone.
It could be that we don’t like the way we are, we would like to be happier, more charming, productive, smart, funny and interesting.

But, the question is: can we change all this?
The good news is that you can change all this, but you need to desire the change from within.
Because if you don’t feel the need to change, if you don’t feel the right motivation to change for the better, it’s difficult to see results.

But if you are reading this article you are probably willing to change something of you, and what I suggest is: don’t be scared! Or at least, try it.
Fear is what blocks or slows us down most, and prevents us from living the life of our dreams.
So, let’s see the rules you need to follow to finally revolution your life.

1. Tidy Up
Yes, you read “tidy up”. The first favor you should do yourself is to tidy up your house.
Your clothes, you books, your perfumes and body creams in the bathroom, the notes around the house and whatever you know you should put in order or get rid of. Believe me, after this clean up you will somehow feel “new”.

2. Save Money Every Month
If you save 15 or 20 percent of your income every month, at the end of the year you can choose to make yourself a gift, like a trip, a car, a watch, a new mobile phone, or a computer, or to wait a little longer and save more many for a bigger and delayed gratification.

3. Set a Goal
Setting a goal not only will make you feel motivated, but it will also add a challenge to your life, and it will literally help you get through your days and weeks with energy.
For example you want to learn a new skill to be better at your job, you want to get a master or you want to work more to get promoted.
Whatever the goal is, you now have something to achieve, and you don’t go to work just to survive and to pay your bills.
You go to work to perform well your tasks to get promoted in the future or to get more experience in order to find a better job.

4. Travel
Travel at least once every two or three months.
If you can’t take holidays, travel on weekends.
But do it, take some time for yourself, take a flight and go discover new places, it’s therapeutic and it will open your mind.

5. Plan Your Days
I can’t stress enough how important this is: planning the day and the week is vital for a good quality of life.
If you plan your days, you won’t have to repeatedly waste energies on making decisions throughout the day. You will already know what you have to do.

6. Smile
If you see someone you know in the street, give this person a big and beautiful smile and ask how their life is.
Being genuinely interested in others will help you have good and healthy friendships, and it will obviously make you feel better.

7. Watch What You Eat
They say we are what we eat, and I think they’re right.
We shouldn’t eat whatever we find in the fridge, but we should nourish our body to have the right energy to face our day.
Food affects our mood, the way we feel and the way our body functions.
Try to eat a little bit of everything, and try to include proteins, vegetables, some carbohydrates, and fruit to your daily diet.
So, remember the importance of eating the right food, and consider it as an ally.

8. Buy Something You Have Wanted for a Long Time
I know I told you to save your money. But I suggest you to start your revolution buying a gift for yourself, doing something nice for yourself or indulging in something.
This way you will start the real change, you will start from yourself.

Read this article in Spanish!

Like this article?
Don’t forget to share it!

Creative Commons License
This work by www.youperfect.org is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
Based on a work at www.youperfect.org.
Permissions beyond the scope of this license may be available at www.youperfect.org.

The Best Version of Yourself

%d bloggers like this: